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Amairany

Hi, I’m Amairany! A seventeen year old girl fulfilling every aspect of my life, making the best of it. I’m like any other teenager except for one thing. I was born with cleft lip. My parents had no idea of my condition until I was born. I was seven months old when I had my first surgery and ten months old when I had my second one. I was supposed to have a third surgery but my mother was afraid because after the second surgery I wouldn’t wake up. After two surgeries though my cleft lip was fixed leaving a slight scar.

Growing up I was very fortunate and was not ridiculed by others because of my scar, though I did have people ask me numerous times why I had a scar and what the story behind it was. I remember being eight and someone asked me “How did you get that scar?” I stared at them and walked away with immense sadness. Occasionally I wondered why I had the scar, but never wanted to discuss it with my parents or anyone. There would be times I would sit in my room and think, out of all the people in the world why was the one to have cleft lip. It never made sense and I always thought it was so unfair.

Even though I wondered why I had to be the one with cleft lip I never let it affect my self-esteem. I don’t feel less or better than anyone, I’m just a young girl trying to live my life. It shouldn’t matter what you look like or where you come from, we’re all human and nobody should be treated differently over a minor scar. Kids should be more aware of how they treat others because there is nothing worse than being judged over something so irrelevant. A scar doesn’t determine if a person is terrible or not, people should learn to look beyond appearance. I’m so thankful that I never let my scar make feel ugly or just make me feel completely bad about myself. As I got older I started forgetting I even had it.

Now that I’m in high school my peers aren’t constantly asking why I have a scar. Every now and then I get questions about it, but I am so much stronger than I was seven years ago. Having cleft lip sets me apart from everyone completely and I personally love it. I feel that the fact that I have this makes me act so different towards others and find anyone beautiful. Knowing that I will have this scar for the rest of my life is the least of my worries because at the end of the day I’m as happy as can be and there is nobody else I would rather be.